We consider the open symmetric exclusion (SEP) and inclusion (SIP) processes on a bounded Lipschitz domain Ω, with both fast and slow boundary. For the random walks on Ω dual to SEP/SIP we establish: a functional-CLT-type convergence to the Brownian motion on Ω with either Neumann (slow boundary), Dirichlet (fast boundary), or Robin (at criticality) boundary conditions; the discrete-to-continuum convergence of the corresponding harmonic profiles. As a consequence, we rigorously derive the hydrodynamic and hydrostatic limits for SEP/SIP on Ω, and analyze their stationary nonequilibrium fluctuations. All scaling limit results for SEP/SIP concern finite-dimensional distribution convergence only, as our duality techniques do not require to establish tightness for the fields associated to the particle systems.